Uncategorized – Relationship-OCD

When do I not feel justified to be angry?

I started thinking about how often her mood puts us in a bad mood versus when my mood does. And I realized that whenever I’m in a bad mood I feel justified to be in a mad bad mood. And so I say whenever she’s in a bad mood it’s all her fault and IContinue reading “When do I not feel justified to be angry?”

Difficult sex but wonderful love

I just want to say that even though I was extremely fearful and had reason to doubt that this relationship would be good as I got married to her, it is most often sweet, tender and wonderful. The fear as wet fueled most of my OCD. But our marriage is an extreme blessing to meContinue reading “Difficult sex but wonderful love”

Laughter is bottomless

We’ve been having a lot of fun lately. We still do you have our tough moments, like last night when she said the reason like 50 people didn’t come to our wedding might be because they didn’t receive our invitations and she thought she couldn’t trust that I sent them correctly. But in general we’reContinue reading “Laughter is bottomless”

Not liking her doesn’t have to make you unhappy

There are times that I really dislike my new bride. Just little things she does that annoy me. Or thought processes she has or certain personality traits. Sometimes just the tone of her voice when she’s around certain people. But I’ve realized that even if I don’t like her at times that doesn’t mean weContinue reading “Not liking her doesn’t have to make you unhappy”

I am in control of our happiness

I was scared that I would be unhappy in a relationship because of who the other person was. But as we’ve been married I no longer have to worry about if this is the right person or not, and instead I just have to figure out how do I make us happy. Everyone has differentContinue reading “I am in control of our happiness”

The fear goes away

So I realize that a big part of OCD is the fear that drives it. My fear was that I would be unhappy in marriage and that I would find and focus on any reason that this might live out to be true. But I have found ways to really make marriage fun. And theContinue reading “The fear goes away”

What we’ve learned from the past generation

I talked with a friend of mine who is in his 60s and got divorced three years ago. He talked about things that he’s just learning that I already knew, whether it be through my church community or through Counseling or through friends. So I thought it worth stating these things so that others won’tContinue reading “What we’ve learned from the past generation”

I have the power to ruin her life

I was just thinking that I have the power to ruin or make joyful each day in the life of my wife. And she has the same power over me. Being so intimately connected with this other person, and being promised to stay with them, gives them this power. That is such a tender andContinue reading “I have the power to ruin her life”

It is a fragile thing

The love of my wife is a fragile thing. I recognized myself thinking and asking myself this morning, is my wife really attractive or am I deceiving myself. She definitely has her flaws. For most, this may sound like a ridiculous thought but for someone with relationship OCD it’s a dangerous one. I had toContinue reading “It is a fragile thing”

Laugh at OCD

I just remembered a technique that an old OCD therapist of mine recommended. She said not only should you drop the thought when you can but you can actually make fun of the thought or the force that’s making you think it. What she meant was when you have a thought you can try toContinue reading “Laugh at OCD”