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One negative thought

One negative thought that puts us in a bad mood is so much more dangerous than just one single thought because it can create an attitude that draws up all other negative thoughts in the area and mount an argument within us against the good.

Some thoughts are true but unhelpful

Some thoughts may be true but are unhelpful to spend brain power on.

I told her about this blog

I have been hiding his blog from everyone, especially my wife. She’s very private about her thanks, especially relationships. She won’t let me share most of the stuff I’ve shared on here, but that’s why I started this blog, because I can share those things that most people can’t share. She said she would thinkContinue reading “I told her about this blog”

Our renaissance

She was gone all week on a missions trip and I had time to plan a warm welcome when she came back. I told myself I want to serve this woman so I asked what does she like and I tried to prepare it for her. I showed up at the airport with a signContinue reading “Our renaissance”

Marriage is a funny thing

I usually despise cleaning if it takes much more than 10 minutes. But this whole morning I found myself cleaning the house because B is coming home today. And I know she likes a clean house. And I’m doing it joyfully! Marriage is a funny thing.

My most dangerous thought

I realized the most dangerous thought of my OCD brain always orbits back to this. “It isn’t supposed to be this hard.” Our relationship is hard. There is a lot she says that bothers me. She’s sweet, but often sounds incredibly dumb and socially unaware to me. Other times she has the most stable wisdomContinue reading “My most dangerous thought”

Love is like a pendulum

Marriage is a pendulum. For a quick hour we feel close, connected. And the rest of the time, The gravity within us Wishes for that elusive state again. R

Marriage is a living thing

I was talking to a friend the other day and he pointed to a flower in his garden. He said they had planted the flower and they thought that it had immediately died. But in the spring it sprouted and climbed the fence and bloomed these amazing unexpected blooms! We went over to see itContinue reading “Marriage is a living thing”

Don’t practice bad thoughts

Here’s something else I’ve learned. Don’t let yourself practice mean thoughts. As soon as you recognize you’re building arguments against your person in your head, say, “God that thought is yours.” Or picture yourself blowing that thought away with a gun. Or shooting it at your spiritual enemy (because he is the one encouraging theContinue reading “Don’t practice bad thoughts”

Settling Into Marriage

Marriage has been super fun. Today she had to wake up super early and I happened to wake up a little before hand. So I cuddled up to her until her alarm went off. Then I kissed and massaged and teased with her as she laughed and objected. “Shhh! Quiet, R!” “Sooorrrrrryyy” I got upContinue reading “Settling Into Marriage”