When do I not feel justified to be angry?

I started thinking about how often her mood puts us in a bad mood versus when my mood does. And I realized that whenever I’m in a bad mood I feel justified to be in a mad bad mood. And so I say whenever she’s in a bad mood it’s all her fault and I can get resentful about it.

But I don’t do the same with myself. And I realized that I am only in a bad mood when I feel justified to be in it so she probably only is when she feels justified to be as well. So in order to get either one of us out of our bad mood and bring up the emotions of both of us, we need to let go of feeling justified to be that way.