I was scared that I would be unhappy in a relationship because of who the other person was. But as we’ve been married I no longer have to worry about if this is the right person or not, and instead I just have to figure out how do I make us happy. Everyone has different things in their relationship dynamic that will make them happy. The trick is to find that thing and feature it, an exaggerator, and find those moments as often as possible.
And in this way, if your partner does things that used to make you unhappy, you don’t have to let it. The happiness is found in deciding as a couple to do the things together that bring you both happiness. It is in my house to choose what to be happy about, and it is in my hands to choose how to do those things that bring us more happiness.