Here’s something else I’ve learned. Don’t let yourself practice mean thoughts. As soon as you recognize you’re building arguments against your person in your head, say, “God that thought is yours.” Or picture yourself blowing that thought away with a gun. Or shooting it at your spiritual enemy (because he is the one encouraging the thoughts) like something an anime character would do.
Don’t let yourself practice those thoughts or they WILL come up when you are mad at your person. And that doesn’t help. Those thoughts are usually not fair and not nice.
It’ll help. You’re welcome.